The Jar and the Two Bottles of Beer

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When things in your life seem almost too much to handle, when 24 hours in a day are not enough, remember the mayonnaise jar and the beer. A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him. When the class began, he wordlessly picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls. He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was. The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls. He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was. The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else. He asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with a unanimous "Yes!'"The professor then produced two Beers from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar effectively filling the empty space between the sand. The students laughed. "Now," said the professor as the laughter subsided, "I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life. The golf balls are the important things---your family, your children, your health, your friends and your favorite passions---and if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full."The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house and your car. The sand is everything else---the small stuff. "If you put the sand into the jar first," he continued, "There is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls. The same goes for life. If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff you will never have room for the things that are important to you.""Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Spend time with your children. Spend time with your parents. Visit with grandparents. Take time to get medical checkups. Take your spouse out to dinner. Play another 18. There will always be time to clean the house and fix the disposal. Take care of the golf balls first---the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand."One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the beer represented. The professor smiled and said, "I'm glad you asked.""The beer just shows you that no matter how full your life may seem, there's always room for a couple beer with a friend."

What A Real Boyfriend Could Do?

When he walks away from you mad - [Follow him]
When he stare's at your lips - [Kiss him]
When he pushes you or hit's you - [Grab him and don’t let go]
When he start's cursing at you - [Kiss him and tell him you love him]
When he's quiet - [Ask him what’s wrong]
When he ignores you - [Give him your attention]
When he pulls away - [Pull him back]
When you see him at his worst - [Tell him he's beautiful]
When you see him start crying - [Just hold him and don’t say a word]
When you see him walking - [Sneak up and hug his waist from behind]
When he's scared - [Protect him]
When he lay's him head on your shoulder - [Tilt his head up and kiss him]
When he steal's your favorite hat - [Let him keep it and sleep with it for a night]
When he tease's you - [Tease him back and make him laugh]
When he doesn’t answer for a long time - [Reassure him that everything is okay]
When he looks at you with doubt - [Back yourself up with the TRUTH]
When he say's that he likes you - [He really does more than you could understand]
When he grabs your hands - [Hold his and play with his fingers]
When he bumps into you - [Bump into him back and make him laugh]
When he tells you a secret - [Keep it safe and untold]
When he looks at you in your eyes - [Don’t look away until he does]
WHEN HE MISSES YOU - [HES HURTING INSIDE]
When you break his heart - [The pain NEVER really goes away]
When he says it’s over - [He STILL wants you to be his]
- Stay on the phone with him even if he’s not saying anything.
- DON'T let him have the last word.
-NEVER call him hot! Pretty and beautiful is so much better.
- Say you love him more than he could ever love you.
- Argue that he is the best boy ever.
- When he's mad hug him tight and don't let go.
- When he says he's ok don’t believe it, talk with him.
- When he says he's sorry, he truly means it.
- Because 10 years later he'll remember you.
- Call him at 12:00am on him birthday to tell him you love him.
- Call him before you sleep and after you wake up.
- Treat him like he's all that matters to you.
- Tease him and let him tease you back.
- Stay up all night with him when he's sick.
- Watch his favorite movie with him or his favorite show even if you think it’s stupid.
- Give him the world.
- Let him wear your clothes.
- When he's bored and sad, hang out with him.
- Let him know he's important.
- Kiss him in the pouring rain.
When he runs up at you crying, the first thing you say is; "Who's ass am I kicking today baby?"

Workplace Dilemmas

If you are a relatively junior employee at your company, though you carry out a very important role, you may not always be recognized. You might also face some of the following challenges:

1. Little fulfillment at work
2. Long working hours
3. Conflicting demands on your time and loyalty
4. Little balance between personal life and work commitments
5. Tight deadlines
6. Time management pressures
7. Strained relationships with the important people in your life
8. Tight personal finances
9. Lack of any say at work
10. Internal politics and a rigid company structure
11. Bullying within the workplace
12. Few promotional opportunities

You are therefore faced with a number of dilemmas in your workplace.

On the one hand you want to be involved in rewarding, enjoyable and fulfilling work, get recognition and promotion for your efforts, and be appreciated for the key role you play in the company.

On the other hand you want a balanced life with time for the things you really want to do with a full and interesting social life. Of course you want to have clarity about your career, job duties and you want to continue to be healthy, fit and stress free.

So what’s the best way forward?! How can you too achieve a Zen like happiness at work?

One key to resolving these seemingly conflicting challenges is to get clear about just how much you love the work you do. Is what you do something you jump out of bed every morning, or would you rather be doing something else?

How motivated are you with your work? And how do you cope with the day to day routine office work?

A UK survey last year found that almost 2 out of 3 people are dissatisfied with their jobs. And I am sure there is a similar situation in the USA and other parts of the developed world. This means that they are either apathetic about finding what they really love doing or they are resigned to being in this situation.

No matter how good things are in other parts of your life such as family, social life and relationships, work is a major part of your life, and not to be neglected.

Since for now you have chosen to be in the job you are in, it is up to you for the time being to make the most of what you do. Of course in the long term, you can either change your job or even embark on a new career. But for now, you can get to love more of what you do right now.

Assuming that in the short term you are not able to change jobs, there are a number of things you can do to begin enjoying more of what you currently do. Ask yourself - is it the job or is it you? And what can you do to make your current work more enjoyable?
Stop acting the victim. YOU are responsible for your life and if you can’t immediately change the job you are in, then it is up to you to make the most of it.

Here are some simple tips for getting to enjoy your current job.

1. On the way to your workplace, get yourself motivated to face the day. Think of how the work you have allows you to have your life outside of it, such as a great social life. A positive attitude will make the day more pleasant and productive.

2. Keep your work in perspective. You can only do the best you can in each situation. Look beyond yourself and your work, and consider the bigger picture. Do some voluntary work to gain a broader outlook. Find a way to contribute to society in general.

3. Remember that you are more than your work. Do not have your identity too strongly tied to the job you do. Give up thinking that your work life “should” be a certain way. Such expectations of what you were supposed to be, as set by your parents and teachers, stop you from enjoying what you currently do.

4. Plan your time. In your to-do list include long term projects as well as the more imminent things that need doing. Prioritise your to-do list - do the most important things first. When performing any task, ask yourself - is this the best use of my time? Schedule in enough time for your studies etc.

5. Concentrate on the task at hand. Do not let yourself be distracted by worrying about all the other things to be done or losing energy over the undesirable situation you find yourself in. Stay in the moment.

6. Be ruthless and take care of a task before it gets on a possible procrastination list. For example, sort your morning post immediately in one go – open it, file it, act on it or bin it there and then.

7. Clarify anytime you are not sure or where you are faced with conflicting demands. The more clear and upfront you are with your manager and the other people you work with, the better it will be for you in the long term.

8. Delegate wherever appropriate. Decide if there is anything that can be delegated, or that more fairly belongs to someone else’s work load. Always remember the “3D” rule – do it, dump it or delegate it - never handle a piece of paper twice.

10. Have regular breaks. Get away from your normal workplace even if only for five minutes. Try taking a break from the laptop, emails and do leave the mobile behind. Make sure that you do have that lunch break – it is not just for food but also for fresh air and a mental break.
Eat a healthy lunch and if you must snack, make sure it is healthy too – an apple rather than a bag of chips. Look for ways of energizing yourself other than from adrenaline and caffeine.

11. Learn to relax no matter how challenging the work gets or how demanding your bosses become. At the end of the day it is only a job, and you are much more than that. In years to come, you will look back and wonder what the fuss was.

12. Contribute towards creating a pleasant work environment. Do not gossip in the office as it just creates negativity all around. Do not listen to any gossip either. Minimize your time with people that you do not resonate with or like. Learn to have more fun at work. Laugh more and chill out. Perform with a more fun orientated approach.

13. Review your day before you leave for home. Look at what worked well, and what could be improved the next day. If you feel satisfied with the day’s work, then why not reward yourself later that day. You deserve it.

14. Switch off once you leave work. You are already at work a third of your time, so do not continue to keep it buzzing in your head during your supposed free time. Mentally say good bye to your work space the moment you leave for home.

See your work as a game. Life is meant to be fun and if you are going to spend a third of it at work, you might as well enjoy the game.

The Power of One

1. Give one kiss every day. One extra kiss a day equals 5 kisses in a week.

2. Read one book every month. Expanding your knowledge will help you become more successful. Read books related to your industry or that will provide insight to helping you improve your skill in a specific area.

3. Ask one more question before you go. Before you starting your day, ask yourself one more question. This question might give you the additional insight you need to more effectively position your day ahead.

4. Pause for one moment longer than usual before responding to a prospect’s question or request. Known as the pregnant pause, this often prompts the other person to blurt out something they had not intended to say. The secret behind this strategy is that most people are uncomfortable with silence and will begin talking to fill the “dead” air space.

5. Get to the office one hour early. Remember the expression “The early bird gets the worm”. That one extra hour first thing in the morning can be the most productive time of the day. You have a better chance to reach decision-makers, there are fewer distractions, and you can often achieve more in that 60 minutes than in several hours.

6. Address objections one more time before giving up. Too many sales people give up too soon when faced with objections. I’m not suggesting that you beat your customer into submission in order to close the sale. However, I do recommend that you tackle each objection one more time before you give up.

7. Send one encouragement to someone who has been sitting on the fence. Sometimes, people need that little push and encouragement to move forward. But, in many cases, their time is occupied by other projects and priorities which means they are not focused on your solution. Gentle reminders are often appreciated providing you don’t follow up so frequently you appear to be stalking them. Even though they may not be ready to make that particular buying decision, you will help keep your name in their mind.

Although it is a tiny number, one can make a very powerful impact both on your life and career. One extra kiss every day, week or month, depending on your how you give it, can make a significant impact on your sales by the end of the day. The next time you think about giving up, consider the fact that you might be just one phone call, encouragement, or one kiss away from making someone else's life beautiful.

A Test of Faith and Love

Lately, Dub Dub and I have been over a lot of fights and arguments. Since the day that Dub Dub did what was not suppose to be done. It all seems that our Saturdays abd Sundays are cursed. We always have that argument over simple things. Last Saturday was the worst, Dub Dub cried so much. I felt bad as well becuase I'm making it hard for him. It seems that I put all the grudges that I have for him in anything that he does or anything that he says. I was so hurt when he sentd me the following text message: "I love you too Lub Lub... I love you until I'm existing... ;-) Please just minimize your begrudges on me..."

I was so touched by these words. I felt that with these little arguments that we are having every now and then will strip the love in our hearts. I don't want that to happen. I don't want to lose Dub Dub. I love him and I have kept him within me despite the hurtful thing that he has done. I took him back. Why? I took him back because I love him. We have bad times. We will alwalys have bad times. But, do we sacrifice all the good times just because of the bad times? No! We should not. These bad times wil test your faith between each other and will test the love within you, between you. Let the fire of love continue burning. Let no one fall out of love. We will keep each other safe. I know we will get through this if we stay together. If we patch things up. It's like a house you know. When a light bulb burns out, you don't buy a new house. You fix the light bulb. Patching things up will build your relationship. You will see that there are a lot of things the you have not discover yet. Both partners should be open to each other. No secrets. No lies. Just pure love and honesty.

I really love it when we can't express our feeling to each other. You know what we do? We either write a letter about what we don't like and what made us feel down and then we take turns reading it to each other. Then we make our own comments. Funny?! Yeah, I love it. Or we send a text to each other even if we are just beside each other. Then, we give each other a hug. A heart-warming hug. It lifts our spirit so much and then things are patched up.

Alch3mist's Simple Reminders III

Here we go again. Life is full of surprises so ponder on these few thoughts I've heard and read. First, have a firm handshake. Look people in the eye. Sing in the shower. Own a great stereo system. If in a fight, hit first and hit hard. Keep secrets. Never give up on anybody. Miracles happen everyday. Always accept an outstretched hand. Be brave. Even if you're not, pretend to be. No one can tell the difference. Whistle. Avoid sarcastic remarks. Choose your life's mate carefully. From this one decision will come 90 percent of all your happiness or misery. Make it a habit to do nice things for people who will never find out. Lend only those books you never care to see again. Never deprive someone of hope; it might be all that they have. When playing games with children, let them win. Give people a second chance, but not a third. Be romantic. Become the most positive and enthusiastic person you know. Loosen up. Relax. Except for rare life-and-death matters, nothing is as important as it first seems. Don't allow the phone to interrupt important moments. It's there for your convenience, not the caller's.Be a good loser. Be a good winner. Think twice before burdening a friend with a secret. When someone hugs you, let them be the first to let go. Be modest. A lot was accomplished before you were born. Keep it simple. Beware of the person who has nothing to lose. Don't burn bridges. You'll be surprised how many times you have to cross the same river. Live your life so that your epitaph could read, "No Regrets". Be bold and courageous. When you look back on life, you'll regret the things you didn't do more than the one's you did. Never waste an opportunity to tell someone you love them. Remember no one makes it alone. Have a grateful heart and be quick to acknowledge those who helped you. Take charge of your attitude. Don't let someone else choose it for you. Visit friends and relatives when they are in hospital; you need only stay a few minutes. Begin each day with some of your favorite music. Once in a while, take the scenic route. Send a lot of Valentine cards. Sign them, 'Someone who thinks you’re terrific.' Answer the phone with enthusiasm and energy in your voice. Keep a note pad and pencil on your bed-side table. Million-dollar ideas sometimes strike at 3 a.m.! Show respect for everyone who works for a living, regardless of how trivial their job. Send your loved ones flowers. Think of a reason later. Make someone's day by paying the toll for the person in the car behind you. Become someone's hero. Count your blessings. Compliment the meal when you're a guest in someone's home. Wave at the children on a school bus. Remember that 80 per cent of the success in any job is based on your ability to deal with people. Don't expect life to be fair. There you go! I've highlighted the few thoughts whom I think is most important of all for me. Life has its ups and downs. Just learn to be flexible like the bamboo. When strong winds hit them, they bend and never break. Yes we should be strong but we have to flexible at certain times also. Cheers!

Carrot, Egg or Coffee?

You will never look at a cup of coffee the same way again. A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed that as one problem was solved, a new one arose. Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to a boil. In the first, she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil, without saying a word. In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She then pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl. Turning to her daughter, she asked, "Tell me, what do you see?" "Carrots, eggs, and coffee," she replied. She brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft. She then asked her to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard-boiled egg. Finally, she asked her to sip the coffee. The daughter smiled as she tasted its rich aroma. The daughter then asked, "What does it mean, Mother?" Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity -- boiling water -- but each reacted differently. The carrot went in strong, hard and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior. But, after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened. The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water, they had changed the water. "Which are you?" she asked her daughter. "When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg, or a coffee bean?" Think of this: Which am I? Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity? Do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength? Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff? Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and a hardened heart? Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor of your life. If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you. When the hours are the darkest and trials are their greatest, do you elevate to another level? How do you handle adversity? Are you changed by your surroundings or do you bring life, flavor, to them? ARE YOU A CARROT, AN EGG, OR A COFFEE BEAN?

Regaining Trust

Trust in more important that monogamy. Regaining trust is so hard to do. You will have a series of difficulties and lot of doubts between partners. Dub Dub and I had a very nice relationship before. We trudted each other so much. We never had doubts until Dub Dub failed. I really felt so betrayed and I wanted to end the relationsip real time. I was thinking that, if he did it once, he could do it again. We've had a series of fights and arguements. We almost lose each others love just because we started to doubt each other.

Broken Heart

Dub Dub broke my heart. Sometimes people do things without really thinking. I'm still asking myself why did it happen. Was it special or was it merely the act itself? But the decesion depends on me. There is no guarantee that it will not happen again. So, I have to think a trillion times. I'm guessing that yesterday, I was in a kind of a denial. I was thinking that it did not happen and I was trying to accept it yesterday and was telling myself that it's okay and that I can move on. Last night was the only time it all sank in. I was really broken. In the back of my mind I was trying to fix things because of the time I have spent with Dub Dub and the comfort we have already established and the fear of doing it all over again. Starting over. I hope I'm sure of what I am doing. Whatever I do, I have to do it fot the right reasons. They say that a person who could afford to hurt me that much is not worthy of my love. If I think that I can be with him and forget what had happened and then just moved on. Then, that would be great. Why cry over a spilt milk. I have to forget about that things that have happened because if I do not, we will only end up begrudging him all of the time and we end up fighting.

Brent Corrigan

Brent Corrigan, (Sean Paul Lockhart, born 1986) is an American gay pornographic model who claims to have been born in 1986 in California. Corrigan started his career in pornography in 2004 at Cobra Video, as a young twink model in Every Poolboy's Dream. He quickly became one of Cobra's most famous performers even showing a double penetration scene with Brent Everett and Chase McKenzie in Schoolboy Crush.Corrigan is noted for his apparent display of pleasure when having anal sex. He performed in bareback sex scenes in his debut video and the 2006 release Cream BBoys, but a condom was used in all scenes starring both Corrigan and Brent Everett for Cobra. According to Cobra Video, he is a skateboarding enthusiast. Corrigan and Cobra Video have each created separate "official" websites promoting the performer.

Deny Yourself Not?

Bisexuality is the human sexual orientation which refers to the aesthetic, romantic, or sexual desire for people of either gender or of either sex.Gay is an adjective meaning "carefree", "happy", or "bright and showy"; however in modern usage, gay is a word usually used, as either a noun or adjective, to refer to same-sex sexual orientation; homosexuality.In short, being "bi" or "gay" is just a person's preference(s) of the people he likes to have sex with.However, it seems that in our country, the stereotype of a "gay" person is the effeminate or cross-dressing male who we see in beauty parlors or in the pageants we see on television. This was, I think due to Dolphy's portrayal of this subtype during the 1960's and 1970's. As a result, the straight-acting gays are now confused of where they should be, and now define themselves as "bi", when in truth they have no iota of interest in girls. Likewise, the effeminate bisexuals have also taken to calling themselves "gay" although they have wives whom they have sex on a regular basis.Moral: Stop confusing your sexual preferences with your personality. Either you're a straight heterosexual, an effeminate heterosexual, a straight bisexual, an effeminate bisexual, a straight-acting homosexual, an effeminate homosexual, a cross-dresser, or a transvestite. Each has its own definition.

Kung Fu Panda...

After going up the mountians of Guadalupe earlier that Sunday morning, we went to church to hear mass and go with the procession. We went to Ayala after and had dinner there. We ordered our favorite Chicken Lauriat from Chow King. We had pineapple juice for our drinks and I ordered fried dumplings and an extra rice. We were so hungry that evening. After eating few of our friends arrived. We chit-chatted fro a while then bud goodbyes and went on our each other ways. We went to see a movie. It was Kung Fu Panda. We had a nice time laughing and enjoying the movie. We were holding hands and hugging each other. We give each other a comforting hug. I kissed him softly, too. Letting him alwasy know that I will be always at his side. "Through thick and thin alright?", Dub Dub said. I told him, "Together. Walang iwanan sa eri!" Then, we smiled.

Kung Fu Panda is the story of Po, (voice Jack Black), a sweet, but clumsy Panda who has dreams of fighting with the legendary Furious Five and protecting the city against all threats. The only problem is that Po has no real life experience of kung fu, and his real job is serving noodles at his dad's noodles shop. News of selecting the Dragon Warrior is sent out from the Jade Temple, and the whole city along with Po, go to the celebration. The competition is between the Furious Five: Tigress (voice Angelina Jolie), Viper (voice Lucy Liu), Crane (voice David Cross), Monkey (voice Jackie Chan), and Mantis (voice Seth Rogen). Po accidentally enters the contest and is named the Dragon Warrior. Master Shifu (voice Dustin Hoffman) must find a way to train Po and make him a Kung Fu Master, especially, after they learn that the snow leopard, Tai Lung (voice Ian McShane), is headed their way.

Up The Mountains Again...

Dub Dub and I decided to have a night out with our friends last Saturday. We were so excited to see them again. Unfortunately we did not make it that night. Dub Dub and I were so tired the past three nights buying flowers and decorating them on the St. Anthony of Padua's Chapel near his uncle's home. It is a very antique image handed over form generation to generation.

Anyway, we didn't make it that night but we made it early dawn where most of our friends were already heading home. We met them at around 4 o'clock.

At around 6 o'clock, everybody decided to go home. Dub Dub and I went to Guadalupe to eat puto maya and sikwate. We also had eggs. It was our breakfast. Typically a Filipino breakfast. I used to eat those when my grand mum was still alive. I've missed the taste of those food.

After eating, Dub Dub wanted to show me a cave up the mountains. It was the cave where a certain villager found the image of the Our Lady of Guadalupe several years ago. They call it the "La Cueva La Nuestra Señora de Guadalupe" or The Cave of the Our Lady Of Guadalupe.

After there, Dub Dub took up the mountains of Guadalupe again. It was a different view form where we previously been. It was breath-taking. I mean the sight that you see below plus the climb uphill. Hahahaha! I'll take pictures soon. We'll climb up again. We were having fun. Identifying trees and grasses on the way up. Teasing each other and whispering sweet "I love you's".

We hiked up the mountain and into the forest. It was nice. Big tall trees everywhere. We kissed and we swore and vowed to be loyal to each other. Some sort of a simple short marriage. We were both happy.

We passed by Beverly Hills, where the rich and famous "used to" live. We saw beautiful houses. There were nice beautiful bonsai trees. We'll take pictures soon. We'll go back there next week.

After there, we hiked down. But, it did not end there. We went to the Taoist Temple. Where all Asian religion meet. It was the first time that I went there. It was nice that it was Dub Dub who took me there.

I saw Lutos flowers. They're so beautiful. They're pink and glorious. The waterlily's were pure. They were white and subtle.

At around 10 o'clock, we go home. We marched down the hill. Found an empty cab and head home. We dozed off for a little while hugging each other.

Waiting...

Real Boys, Kiss Boys

Real boys, kiss boys. Apollo and Hyacinthus. Achilles and Patrokulos. Alexander, the Great and Hephaestion. They were good friends and they were lovers, too. They loved each other so much. Apollo lamented so much when Hyacinthus died. Achilles killed Paris as a revenge for what Paris did to Patrokulos. Why would people try to illegalize something that is so beautiful.